I think I'll probably be ready enough by the time I am 28. Not that I can ever truly be ready but there is a target in mind. There is more that I need to learn about language, music and this world. So that I may create an environment that promtes love and respect, encourages curiosity and learning and values courage, kindness, honesty and responsibility. I need to have better habits. I also need to mature to be stronger and more courageous so that I may support this environment. Fortunately, when I have the courage to have a child I will know that I have all the courage I need.
Dear Jesse of the future,
Congratulations!
Lead the children! Don't force them into activities. Rather, expose your child to them in a manner which stimulates their curiosity. Attempt to share what you know and love because you will be a good teacher but if the child is not interested instead focus your energies on helping them find their own natural interests. But don't find it for them! Encourage, support and lead them to opportunities. Don't tell them what to try (unless asked for a suggestion of course!), instead show them how to live with an open mind. Always engage questions. Help the child to understand early on that the answer to a question is not simple; that life is a quest for knowledge that is long and rewarding (Instead of letting their perspectives crash when they realise that their model of the world is highly idealized. You can't just tell them this an expect them to understand. Demonstrate with examples and then explain). Stifling questions teaches the child to stay put and not advance in life. Giving curt answers implies that the answer is absolute and children take things literally. Help them to have as much fun as is safe! Teach them how to keep their childhood alive throughout their lives so that they will always go forward to learn more.
Listen to instrumental music together with the children. Pick pieces that have inspired and enlightened you. Spending time with the children in this safe comfortable environment will help them to develop a sense of support, a mental bunker of happiness, the music will create a trigger for them to access these safe feelings throughout their lives (Maybe try having a particular distinct smell always present at these times, alternate it through the years to give them more precise control and avoid having the entire set of memories tainted by an accedental bad experience)
Would be nice to have a community of people who share theories, techniques and experiences in a sort of parenting manual that can be passed down.
Likely more to come on this topic in the future. It is something important to focus on.
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